Every Change is a Million Baby Steps

First you see it
Then you know what it is
Then you wish it
Then you think
How do I get to it?
How do I do it?

Then you see it again
You are attracted to it again
You think, wow, I wanted to do that, have that
And then you think, I will wait until another day to start towards it

And then you hear about it
And wonder why you have not acted on it yet
And you promise yourself you will

You can not start anything without starting it
You can not finish anything without starting it

The bottom line is to simply find a way to do it
You can not and will not do it all at once,
However if you start by seeing yourself do it
And then create a path to it
And figure out how it will look when you are there
When you have accomplished it
It is already done

Everyday is the time to start, even if you just look it up and find others who have tried
Everyday is another opportunity to take one more step
And then another
You see, action is motivation
It is not the finish line that is the fun
It is getting there and the appreciation
You will love

It is the fuel of the next thing we wish
Then want
Then plan
Then do

None of us can change all at once
Knowing how to change is what changes in us
Accepting that we can change changes us
We spend our whole lives trying not to change
When we are all about Change

Morning Coffee

I woke up very happy today
I keep reminding myself
As I always think of God
Seeing us all the time and I keep thinking of God Saying:
"I gave you this challenge
What are you to do with it?
See how you want it to beAnd live what you see
It is you who creates it
Never underestimate
the power of loving your own soul
For only then can you love another's
For only then can you propel your life as you see it
For only then can you see
It is not that you deserve it or not
It is simply that you can see it
accept it And learn the growth it came to provide you."

Look at life that way
Know that God sees your everything
And there is nothing to hide
Not even from myself
Give everyone around you
All the space they need
And let them teach you who they are
Not who you want them to be That is the only way to learn
The only way to see yourself enough to see them Life IS beautiful
Life is truth

No Answers Just Journey's

Watch out when you get happy
Stop yourself from thinking you don't deserve it
Let yourself dance
Don't shortchange your soul

Always, Always, Always,
Replace guilt with love
Always, Always, Always
Remind yourself that perfection is love

Stop telling yourself no one loves you
That is not truth for anyone
Keep out of the ballpark that throws balls that say
I don't like me
Just live without the reasons why

We all know why we are here
And that is to find love
So instead of finding out how to love and then doing it
Do it
And then see what happens

WE are not here for answers
WE are here for journey's
Live your journey's with the pride of life
And Life can only leave you proud

Sweet Surrender

Love is so open
That when we try to close it up
Try to make it go away
Leave it a lone for a while
It keeps coming back
Like a person all it's own

Love has a personality
It takes our personality
And it changes us

When we are in love
We feel like we can float
That we can do anything
And we try
And we will try and eat foods we never would have
See a movie that we would have not thought of to see

It makes us trust life so easily
So addictive and we find love so appealing
Love is a person
That comes to us in surprise
And we surrender to it
When we can see it
When we let it in
When we say, OK, come, I will go with you
Anywhere you want to go

Love is the freedom we fight for
Love reminds us we are in fact able to do something new
Be someone new
Love is the newness in our eyes
The fragrance of our souls
Love is the breeze of our thoughts
And the eyes of our world

Such a sweet surrender
That when you let yourself walk to it
It will hold your hand
And show you it's path

The Merry Go Round Of Fear

When we are feeling fear, we don't recognize ourselves
And then we get mad if someone else recognizes us...

When we fear we fight about the symptoms
Not what we fear
Therefore the fighting seems to never stop
Because our fear was never mentioned

Our vulnerabilities are still there
Our hurts are still present
They are old and weathered and even the slightest movement towards them
Will bring about a confrontation

Fear is the opposite of love
Fear is the fear of love

It looks like it is working towards love
However every time love gets close to fear
If the fear is not apparent
Another fight erupts which validates and deepens the fear
And puts space between you and another
And reminds you that fear has won again,
Hence being more upset and fearful the next time around

The thresholds become steeper
The words become uglier as time goes on
Since fear is not addressed
And anger at yourself sets in
However you can not be as angry at yourself
So it HAS to be the OTHER person

Is that fair?
No, that is fear!

Fear is the robber
Living in your soul
Scares you to pieces
With no glue to connect you to you
Let alone another

Fear is the frustration
That reminds you, you don't know everything
When you are in charge of everything else
Fear comes in the spots you don't expect

Like when you fall in love
And want to start new
As you get closer to another
It rolls in like a fog
Not noticeable at first
And then you start feeling happy and settled

As your happiness is something you feel you could get use to
Fear comes in and starts to play
It tells you the other person could not possibly love you
That you are not worth loving at all
And then it second guesses the person
Who came into your life
And loves you and is attracted to you
And fear tells you that it isn't so
It can't be
Not you
That you don't deserve love

If someone didn't know your mind or your history
You are free with them
And as they get to you, know you, you start to fight
That is fear fighting
Fearing fighting you

If you could both look at each other
And simply speak
With all honesty and inner pure intent
That I really love you
I just don't know how to
I really care about us
But I don't feel I deserve this
I want not to fight with you
But I don't know any other way

That fear has been around longer than you have
I want to believe that we can overcome it
I want to believe that I can overcome it
But I haven't been able to do it yet
And now I am so use to not living in love
I have learned how to be in love
However I haven't learned how to live in love

Can we be honest enough to know
It is not your tone of voice
Or your way of doing things that bothers me
It is me that bothers me
I am not yet free enough to be here
And I want to be

This is me fighting fear
That is the truth of it
Is it safe for me to be loved no matter what
Because if I can't love myself enough,
How I will have enough for you
For us

If we are honest
We would say
You are really not bothering me
We are here for a reason

To teach each other to overcome fear
If we can't see that
We will blame each other for the rest of our lives
If we can see that
We can help each other for the rest of our lives
Which do we want
It is a choice

Honesty tells us there are no mistakes
Fear tells us everything is a mistake when it comes to us
Fear challenges our emotions just because that is where we have been hurt
I want to take away the power of fear
And remind myself that it is not my friend
Fear is the ego part of me that has never helped me before
My soul is what I want to look at and to push fear to the side
I want to live in why I am fearful rather than simply responding to fears power

I have the strength and the will to do this
Fear only has the strength I give to it
I want to love you
And I know you love me
Let's start there
When we fight and we both can see it is fear and not us
Let us remind each other
That we are here because of love
And that fear is in our path
That we deserve love
And fear is now seen
That we can do this
As we dissolve fear

Checklist Of Love

Could there be enough purposes of love?
A safe place
A pillow you can rest your head on and know that there is nowhere like it in the world?
Dinner for two or three or four, it is all the same, enough love to fill the room?
Honor of each other's soul without taking away and then waiting to say your sorry?

Love is so different now, than it ever has been
Love now, is open and willing, in a way that defies the pressures we face
We have people available from anywhere that can pierce a relationship
Whether it be Internet or work or just plain out and out flirting
We have bills that are bigger than us
Debt in many cases
Children that are brought up in a generation of technology
And we weren't
We have more eating out
And less time at home
We have jobs that need many hours
And paychecks that are not enough, no matter how much money we make

With all of that Love is here
Within blended families
And single parenting
Within disabilities that are slight to our children
And providing them with balanced childhood's
With attachments and grows that may not come from the parents themselves

Love now, says with all of that we still want to be with, meet and share our lives
With that special someone
Someone who we can trust
That makes all of this worth it
To have more happy days
Than harsher ones
To go out together
And come home to rest
To look forward to seeing
And work towards future

Love is not about sex
Although it comes with it
But it comes with other things too
So it couldn't be about sex alone
Love is about hope
And dreams
And "worth it's" coating each day we share
And "trying" to step out of our comfort zones to see the others point of view
And "helping" when it is needed without a word that WE did anything

Love is not about a home
LOVE IS HOME
Love is the air you breath in your home
Love is the clean sheets
And the sound of the washer going

Love is the scents of food
And the tray of cookies that come out of the oven
Love is the ride to work
Or to the airport
Love is the walk around the block
And the talks that bring you closer
Love is the truth, the love, the purity
Of YOU in your foundation

Love is the bounce board of all your other interactions
Love is the fuel of your soul
That fuels everything else

Love isn't only with one person
It extends itself to your children in a way you never knew
It opens up the reasons to know and interact
It gives the purpose to us to take on new things
It gives the reasons to hold on to old things

Love is the balance of all we can think
The reason for all that we do
The purpose of why we do it
And the sustainer of all that we know

Love is grand and should never be put on the back burner
Anything left on a back burner will burn

Do a love check today
Do you love your days?
Are you happy within them?
Do you feel the love of others in your home?
Do you share your love with those you love?
Do you go to work thinking you make a difference?
Do you come home feeling you are coming home to love?
Are the issues that need to be taken care of in trust and love and purity?
Are your intentions to fill your heart, your home with love?
Do you look forward to home, Home being anywhere that you are?

Life is Valentines
Days are love
And moments are lived
That bring opportunities to feel love
As much as we look for it
It's creation is in our hands

Why Not Me?

There are no mistakes
There are no failures
There is only life
We made up the word mistake
We made up the word failure
Or I can't do

Our capabilities
Our abilities
Do not know the word NO
Those words did not exist before we existed
Those words did not have strength until we gave them strength

To say something was a mistake is simply to say I have learned nothing
To say you are a failure is to say you have stopped trying
To say you are not capable
Is to say that you have found an excuse
And to say you do not have the ability
Is to say you don't want to attempt

To say I can't
Is really to say I won't

Remember when you stop yourself
From trying something new
Something you have wanted to do
Something you have admired in life as part of you
Remember to remind yourself
That your mind speaks for you without your permission
It is up to your soul to tell it how you feel
To say, why not me????

Why not me
To take on my fears
Why not me
To fix that broken thing
Why not me
To own that home
Why not me
To cook that fantastic meal
Why not me
To feel love in my heart
Why not me
To share the love I feel
Why not me
To set goals and achieve them
Why not me
To plan ahead
Why not me
To do as I dream
Why not me?

For I am a soul too
Just like you
There is no soul more important than another
No matter who they are
Why not me?
No more reasons
No more explanations
Why not you?
It is just someone who already knew
That we made up the word NO!